Hey Everyone!
"And no one dared
Disturb the sound of silence." -Simon & Garfunkel, Sounds of Silence
When peace finally befalls on ears that have only known stubborn silence, it startles the listener. There is a difference between peace and silence. When one finally determines the subtle difference between silence and peace, the result is mesmerizing.
Bubbling creeks, whispering winds, and singing birds bring me peace. Silence between friends is not peace. Silence is loud. Peace is subdued. The things that bring peace to peoples' lives vary from one person to another. There is much to be learned from peace. It teaches wisdom by providing a calm time to think. It gives rest to the weary. It brings life in times where it seems death has finally won.
We are a people trapped in a loudly silent world. A world where turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to serious issues has become the only way to resolve any problem. To pretend it does not exist. That will not bring anyone peace. It won't resolve our issues. It simply gives our issues room to grow, evolve, and reappear in a new form. Why do we do that to ourselves? When did it become acceptable to live in a silent world?
We are obligated to find peace and to find peace we must deal with the very real issues that surround us. We must learn to appreciate the simplicity of life. The simplicities of birds singing, wind whispering, and creeks bubbling. We must embrace and appreciate the natural beauties that were given to us for peace. There is no question, our world is harsh, cruel, and silent, but we don't have to succumb to it. We can fight that silence, that cruelty, and that harshness. We can find peace. We can stop the silence.
Monday, December 19, 2011
Sunday, December 18, 2011
The End
Hey Guys!
No, this is not the end of That Natural Beauty. Just the name of the article.
I'm going to get right to the point. Recently in the past few months there has been a monstrous falling out between me and people who I used to be friends with. Expecting us to be capable of mending the brokenness in between us was my hope. Sadly, in some circumstances, such as these, it couldn't be done. Where the pains and division cut far too deep and the wounds just couldn't heal, while the other party refused to try to remedy the situation in an appropriate manner. So it became my realization that it was time for me to let it go. And by that I mean, letting them go. Sometimes, we lose those we had hoped to keep. It happens and it is a very painful process for all parties involved. But, you know what, there is always hope that maybe some time far in the future that friendship will be redeemed.
This brings me to my first point, friendship is that state of cordiality that allows groups of people to have fellowship and bonding. Friendship is founded on trust, loyalty, and love. With all these things comes respect. Sadly, it is easy to break that friendship by destroying one or all these attributes to the friendship. As we have all done at least once. By breaking these foundations we break the friendship and it then becomes the other parties' choice to either redeem the friendship or not.
Second point, friendship is a blessing. As such, it must not be taken for granted. I easily took that particular friendship for granted and for that I lost it. For that I am sorry. Try to not make the same mistakes as I. Everything catches up to you in the end. Whether you care or not, it will find you, whatever it is.
Third point, when you badly hurt someone emotionally it leaves a scar, just as if you had badly hurt someone physically. That scar will follow them and you until the day death comes for both. It is another price one must pay for what they destroyed. I do apologize for damaging those people emotionally. It was wrong.
Fourth point, it takes all parties to completely obliterate a friendship. As bad as one member of a particular friendship erred, it was the other party that refused to forgive them. For this, they lost that friendship. It is not easy to forgive, it never is, it never will be, but it must be. It might take many years, but the longer you allow yourself to become bitter the harder it's going to become to enjoy life fully and to love other people completely. No matter how old you are, no matter how much you know, you know nothing if you can't forgive and love despite your humanity.
"To err is human; to forgive is divine." -Alexander Pope
I know the beauty of this situation. It was difficult to find but it was found. The freedom to see someone as they are and to see yourself as you are require extremely high payment. To know and understand the difference between what a person openly displays about themselves and what they try to hide brings much sorrow at first, but joy in the latter. Through these many painful and erratic experiences I've come to know myself better, even the darker side of me. I've seen what type of a monster I can become. It frightened me at first, but then it challenged me to become a better person. Or at least try to be. I can't give up my own fight. I won't surrender to that part of myself, instead I've openly chosen to better myself beyond myself. To embrace that which can't always be understood; grace, love, forgiveness, & God. To withdrawal myself from that I thought I could handle; anger, sadness, depression, and fear. I won't die a monster but as much of a hero as I can muster up within myself. What I've seen and what others have seen in me is inexcusable, not unforgivable. But now they have nothing on me. Because self-recognition is both the hardest and safest part of being human. It shows you what you need to fix within yourself before you are able to fix others.
At self-recognition I do not lack, my own flaws do not go unnoticed by me. However, I can't help but wonder if the other recognizes their flaws because it became so easy for them to pinpoint my flaws but theirs' seemed to go unnoticed. This is why that friendship failed. We all erred, few could forgive, but in the end it won't matter who did and said what, because Divine intervention always happens.
And everyone's fate is the same. But I choose to walk forward and not backward because we aren't meant to walk backwards, are we? No. So why waste precious time doing it? I won't, what about you? Embrace your natural beauty and walk forward into the future with your head up high and dignity accompanied by its old friends hope and love. See what the future holds and embrace opportunity. Everyone will find a way someday, I've chosen today.
No, this is not the end of That Natural Beauty. Just the name of the article.
I'm going to get right to the point. Recently in the past few months there has been a monstrous falling out between me and people who I used to be friends with. Expecting us to be capable of mending the brokenness in between us was my hope. Sadly, in some circumstances, such as these, it couldn't be done. Where the pains and division cut far too deep and the wounds just couldn't heal, while the other party refused to try to remedy the situation in an appropriate manner. So it became my realization that it was time for me to let it go. And by that I mean, letting them go. Sometimes, we lose those we had hoped to keep. It happens and it is a very painful process for all parties involved. But, you know what, there is always hope that maybe some time far in the future that friendship will be redeemed.
This brings me to my first point, friendship is that state of cordiality that allows groups of people to have fellowship and bonding. Friendship is founded on trust, loyalty, and love. With all these things comes respect. Sadly, it is easy to break that friendship by destroying one or all these attributes to the friendship. As we have all done at least once. By breaking these foundations we break the friendship and it then becomes the other parties' choice to either redeem the friendship or not.
Second point, friendship is a blessing. As such, it must not be taken for granted. I easily took that particular friendship for granted and for that I lost it. For that I am sorry. Try to not make the same mistakes as I. Everything catches up to you in the end. Whether you care or not, it will find you, whatever it is.
Third point, when you badly hurt someone emotionally it leaves a scar, just as if you had badly hurt someone physically. That scar will follow them and you until the day death comes for both. It is another price one must pay for what they destroyed. I do apologize for damaging those people emotionally. It was wrong.
Fourth point, it takes all parties to completely obliterate a friendship. As bad as one member of a particular friendship erred, it was the other party that refused to forgive them. For this, they lost that friendship. It is not easy to forgive, it never is, it never will be, but it must be. It might take many years, but the longer you allow yourself to become bitter the harder it's going to become to enjoy life fully and to love other people completely. No matter how old you are, no matter how much you know, you know nothing if you can't forgive and love despite your humanity.
"To err is human; to forgive is divine." -Alexander Pope
I know the beauty of this situation. It was difficult to find but it was found. The freedom to see someone as they are and to see yourself as you are require extremely high payment. To know and understand the difference between what a person openly displays about themselves and what they try to hide brings much sorrow at first, but joy in the latter. Through these many painful and erratic experiences I've come to know myself better, even the darker side of me. I've seen what type of a monster I can become. It frightened me at first, but then it challenged me to become a better person. Or at least try to be. I can't give up my own fight. I won't surrender to that part of myself, instead I've openly chosen to better myself beyond myself. To embrace that which can't always be understood; grace, love, forgiveness, & God. To withdrawal myself from that I thought I could handle; anger, sadness, depression, and fear. I won't die a monster but as much of a hero as I can muster up within myself. What I've seen and what others have seen in me is inexcusable, not unforgivable. But now they have nothing on me. Because self-recognition is both the hardest and safest part of being human. It shows you what you need to fix within yourself before you are able to fix others.
At self-recognition I do not lack, my own flaws do not go unnoticed by me. However, I can't help but wonder if the other recognizes their flaws because it became so easy for them to pinpoint my flaws but theirs' seemed to go unnoticed. This is why that friendship failed. We all erred, few could forgive, but in the end it won't matter who did and said what, because Divine intervention always happens.
And everyone's fate is the same. But I choose to walk forward and not backward because we aren't meant to walk backwards, are we? No. So why waste precious time doing it? I won't, what about you? Embrace your natural beauty and walk forward into the future with your head up high and dignity accompanied by its old friends hope and love. See what the future holds and embrace opportunity. Everyone will find a way someday, I've chosen today.
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Christmas Present!
Hey Guys!
Alright, firstly I apologize for it being almost a week since my last blog. I've been pretty sick recently. A fabulous Christmas present! Sarcasm intended.
So as I am sure we all know, Christmas is right around the corner. Literally in one week. It's quite spectacular how quickly time flies. But I don't mind Christmas being right around the corner.
Presents are fun, cookies are nice, hot cocoa is delicious, and Santa Clause make little kids' eyes sparkle with joy and hope. But the spirit of Christmas is also one of giving. I personally enjoy giving gifts rather than receiving gifts. It's always more rewarding to watch the receivers' eyes light up when they receive a few extra dollars, a new jacket, or a new toy. Churches provide excellent giving programs around this time year. It's quite amazing.
What makes me a bit melancholy about this season is once it is over, it seems that that spirit of giving is over as well. Or at least loses some of its strength. But I must remember there are different organizations that give every day.
One of the best presents on Christmas is joy. I know that is corny, but it is true. Everyone usually is elated around this time of year. For one reason or another. It's always fun watching parents in stores Christmas shopping for their kids. Except for those crazy violent shoppers who push you out of their way. Those are the shoppers I could do without.
I love how much family is centered and together on Christmas. My own family does everything together around and on Christmas. It gives the season a bit of magic.
Although Christ was not technically born on Christmas, it is still amazing to think about that miracle. It reminds us that not all things are doomed, especially if love finds a way to reside. We celebrate His birth now, which is fine, but more than that, we celebrate what He meant. Freedom, love, and hope. That's what Christmas means.
To rejoice in our natural gifts of freedom, love, and hope. We have the freedom to hope and the hope to love and be loved. Usually, in some form or another, we are loved by some random gift, cup of hot cocoa, or even a fresh batch of cookies. So enjoy Christmas this year! Enjoy and embrace all it offers you. But my challenge to me and to you is try to maintain that spirit of joy, love, and hope all throughout the year. It is possible. I know people who do. Merry Christmas!!
Alright, firstly I apologize for it being almost a week since my last blog. I've been pretty sick recently. A fabulous Christmas present! Sarcasm intended.
So as I am sure we all know, Christmas is right around the corner. Literally in one week. It's quite spectacular how quickly time flies. But I don't mind Christmas being right around the corner.
Presents are fun, cookies are nice, hot cocoa is delicious, and Santa Clause make little kids' eyes sparkle with joy and hope. But the spirit of Christmas is also one of giving. I personally enjoy giving gifts rather than receiving gifts. It's always more rewarding to watch the receivers' eyes light up when they receive a few extra dollars, a new jacket, or a new toy. Churches provide excellent giving programs around this time year. It's quite amazing.
What makes me a bit melancholy about this season is once it is over, it seems that that spirit of giving is over as well. Or at least loses some of its strength. But I must remember there are different organizations that give every day.
One of the best presents on Christmas is joy. I know that is corny, but it is true. Everyone usually is elated around this time of year. For one reason or another. It's always fun watching parents in stores Christmas shopping for their kids. Except for those crazy violent shoppers who push you out of their way. Those are the shoppers I could do without.
I love how much family is centered and together on Christmas. My own family does everything together around and on Christmas. It gives the season a bit of magic.
Although Christ was not technically born on Christmas, it is still amazing to think about that miracle. It reminds us that not all things are doomed, especially if love finds a way to reside. We celebrate His birth now, which is fine, but more than that, we celebrate what He meant. Freedom, love, and hope. That's what Christmas means.
To rejoice in our natural gifts of freedom, love, and hope. We have the freedom to hope and the hope to love and be loved. Usually, in some form or another, we are loved by some random gift, cup of hot cocoa, or even a fresh batch of cookies. So enjoy Christmas this year! Enjoy and embrace all it offers you. But my challenge to me and to you is try to maintain that spirit of joy, love, and hope all throughout the year. It is possible. I know people who do. Merry Christmas!!
Sunday, December 11, 2011
Laughter
Hey Guys!
Every blessed one of you feels better for that burst of laughter.
It is easy to forget to laugh in situations that are so grim you want to cry. Laughter is easy because it is simple. You make a ridiculous noise and smile. That is laughter.
Laughter beats sorrow any day. In fact, sometimes laughter will produce more tears than sorrow. In times of trial, laughter is a powerful healing remedy. So laugh! Laugh about your follies and laugh about your successes. Laugh about the person next to you and yourself. We're all fools. We're all court jesters. Why do we take ourselves so seriously? I denounce seriousness the majority of the time. I denounce it because the majority of the time our issues aren't all serious. Granted, there are those special situations where it truly is quite serious, but that isn't often.
I mean if we truly think about it, how many of our issues, really are life and death issues? Someone is mad at me, okay, well that's fine, I probably did something to upset them. Oh well, I'm mad at many people too, but I just laugh at our fights and arguments. They are only temporary upsurges in my somewhat calm sea.
The way I see it, I'm merely on a boat traveling across my sea of life, dealing with the many storms that come. But I won't break under the strain, it's freeing to laugh and be laughed at. It relieves the tension of the many tense moments. It relieves the stresses of the day. It helps break the cold stone walls people build between each other. Face the music, we're all people and we all have problems, but why should we allow those problems to rule us? I don't allow my problems to rule over me. I just laugh at myself, my past, and the various ways my life has played out. I find it entertaining and I am just grateful that I made it to another day.
People are too afraid to laugh. They are afraid that they will be judged. Judged for laughing at inappropriate times. Well, yes, there are some inappropriate times to laugh. Everything has a season. But laughter is quite present in the majority of my seasons. Joy is essential to being human. We can't get through this world without joy. It's too difficult and it cannot be done. So why waste away in bitterness, anger, and negativity when you have the option of laughter and joy. Even in the blackest of nights, there is always one sliver of light somewhere, usually that is laughter. Laughter is naturally beautiful.
Every blessed one of you feels better for that burst of laughter.
-Ivor Novello
It is easy to forget to laugh in situations that are so grim you want to cry. Laughter is easy because it is simple. You make a ridiculous noise and smile. That is laughter.
Laughter beats sorrow any day. In fact, sometimes laughter will produce more tears than sorrow. In times of trial, laughter is a powerful healing remedy. So laugh! Laugh about your follies and laugh about your successes. Laugh about the person next to you and yourself. We're all fools. We're all court jesters. Why do we take ourselves so seriously? I denounce seriousness the majority of the time. I denounce it because the majority of the time our issues aren't all serious. Granted, there are those special situations where it truly is quite serious, but that isn't often.
I mean if we truly think about it, how many of our issues, really are life and death issues? Someone is mad at me, okay, well that's fine, I probably did something to upset them. Oh well, I'm mad at many people too, but I just laugh at our fights and arguments. They are only temporary upsurges in my somewhat calm sea.
The way I see it, I'm merely on a boat traveling across my sea of life, dealing with the many storms that come. But I won't break under the strain, it's freeing to laugh and be laughed at. It relieves the tension of the many tense moments. It relieves the stresses of the day. It helps break the cold stone walls people build between each other. Face the music, we're all people and we all have problems, but why should we allow those problems to rule us? I don't allow my problems to rule over me. I just laugh at myself, my past, and the various ways my life has played out. I find it entertaining and I am just grateful that I made it to another day.
People are too afraid to laugh. They are afraid that they will be judged. Judged for laughing at inappropriate times. Well, yes, there are some inappropriate times to laugh. Everything has a season. But laughter is quite present in the majority of my seasons. Joy is essential to being human. We can't get through this world without joy. It's too difficult and it cannot be done. So why waste away in bitterness, anger, and negativity when you have the option of laughter and joy. Even in the blackest of nights, there is always one sliver of light somewhere, usually that is laughter. Laughter is naturally beautiful.
Chums
Hey Everyone!
"No more dreaming of the dead as if death itself was undone." (Florence + the Machine, Blinding)
Recently I have been spending time with various chums. All of which have potential to become someone influential. We'd been speaking of our college careers, majors, and our hopeful futures when a realization fell upon my friends and I. We are going to become something, we are to become someone. We have the capability to utilize our brains to give something meaningful back to our world. We all pursue careers in strictly academic fields. We understand that our walks on these paths will easily be some of the most challenging. However, we are quite frank about what we want from our lives.
We dreamt our dreams, now we actively pursue them. In this life, if you do not have a dream then you must discover one. Without dreams we lose motivation. We lose clear an concise thoughts about our lives. We lose morals, values, and standards. We lose hope.
No one is perfect, but we are good. We can pursue hopes and wishes that seem lightyears away from where we are. We must awaken our passions. We cannot dream of the dead things, done and past, especially when we have a future ahead of us.
Do not say that you don't have a future, a future does not have to be something marvelous. A future is simply the day after today. What you choose to do with tomorrow, now, that is your future. We are the painters of our own lives. We can change most circumstances in our lives with the right will power and skill.
And even if you don't achieve what you dreamt of achieving the first time around, try again. We can lay much to rest in our lives, but never our dreams. Our dreams haunt us. We see them everywhere. In the stars, the moon, the sun, a test, even the bathroom wall.
Dreams can become reality, if you grow them correctly. It is like growing a fruit tree: plow the ground, plant the seed, water and feed it, provide the right amount of shade and sunlight, let it grow in peace. Within time, a beautiful apple tree will have grown from the seed. A Natural Beauty. Picture your dream as the apple seed, now you are growing it. Don't ever allow that seed to die. Allow your dreams to assist in guiding your life. There is much to be achieved.
"No more dreaming of the dead as if death itself was undone." (Florence + the Machine, Blinding)
Recently I have been spending time with various chums. All of which have potential to become someone influential. We'd been speaking of our college careers, majors, and our hopeful futures when a realization fell upon my friends and I. We are going to become something, we are to become someone. We have the capability to utilize our brains to give something meaningful back to our world. We all pursue careers in strictly academic fields. We understand that our walks on these paths will easily be some of the most challenging. However, we are quite frank about what we want from our lives.
We dreamt our dreams, now we actively pursue them. In this life, if you do not have a dream then you must discover one. Without dreams we lose motivation. We lose clear an concise thoughts about our lives. We lose morals, values, and standards. We lose hope.
No one is perfect, but we are good. We can pursue hopes and wishes that seem lightyears away from where we are. We must awaken our passions. We cannot dream of the dead things, done and past, especially when we have a future ahead of us.
Do not say that you don't have a future, a future does not have to be something marvelous. A future is simply the day after today. What you choose to do with tomorrow, now, that is your future. We are the painters of our own lives. We can change most circumstances in our lives with the right will power and skill.
And even if you don't achieve what you dreamt of achieving the first time around, try again. We can lay much to rest in our lives, but never our dreams. Our dreams haunt us. We see them everywhere. In the stars, the moon, the sun, a test, even the bathroom wall.
Dreams can become reality, if you grow them correctly. It is like growing a fruit tree: plow the ground, plant the seed, water and feed it, provide the right amount of shade and sunlight, let it grow in peace. Within time, a beautiful apple tree will have grown from the seed. A Natural Beauty. Picture your dream as the apple seed, now you are growing it. Don't ever allow that seed to die. Allow your dreams to assist in guiding your life. There is much to be achieved.
Friday, December 9, 2011
On Family
Hey Guys!
Sitting down to my family dinner I realized how important it is to have that type of love somewhere in your life. That type of a system. Whether it be with friends, family, extended family, or anyone else. To have that moral support system always behind you. Those special people who truly do love you despite the messes you get yourself into. It's rare to rediscover that type of love, most of the time it is impossible.
It is easy to take love for granted. It is terrifying to lose that which you love. Life is uncertain and time is depleting. Therefore, it would be prudent to realize that appreciation of those special people is required on a daily basis.Do you wish to go to the grave without appreciating those you love?
"You can't choose what stays and what fades away." Florence and the Machine- No Light No Light
I quote this song because no one can choose when that icy hand of death comes, you can't choose when separation will gnash its ugly teeth, and you can't choose when those you love, don't love you anymore. This is how life is, it gives and it takes, without warning and without sympathy. Like time, life is, simply put, what it was made to be. It is not a curse but not always a blessing.
However, life is good, because it does give. It gives you the opportunities to love and be loved, to live and let live, and to laugh. We just need to seize those opportunities when they befall upon us. Life is a natural beauty but every rose has its thorns. Be aware and be warned, if you love someone display that appreciation on a daily basis and don't take it for granted. Never miss an opportunity to display your natural beauty by loving someone.
Sitting down to my family dinner I realized how important it is to have that type of love somewhere in your life. That type of a system. Whether it be with friends, family, extended family, or anyone else. To have that moral support system always behind you. Those special people who truly do love you despite the messes you get yourself into. It's rare to rediscover that type of love, most of the time it is impossible.
It is easy to take love for granted. It is terrifying to lose that which you love. Life is uncertain and time is depleting. Therefore, it would be prudent to realize that appreciation of those special people is required on a daily basis.Do you wish to go to the grave without appreciating those you love?
"You can't choose what stays and what fades away." Florence and the Machine- No Light No Light
I quote this song because no one can choose when that icy hand of death comes, you can't choose when separation will gnash its ugly teeth, and you can't choose when those you love, don't love you anymore. This is how life is, it gives and it takes, without warning and without sympathy. Like time, life is, simply put, what it was made to be. It is not a curse but not always a blessing.
However, life is good, because it does give. It gives you the opportunities to love and be loved, to live and let live, and to laugh. We just need to seize those opportunities when they befall upon us. Life is a natural beauty but every rose has its thorns. Be aware and be warned, if you love someone display that appreciation on a daily basis and don't take it for granted. Never miss an opportunity to display your natural beauty by loving someone.
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Memories
What's Up Everyone?
Today was a productive day. Got registered for the classes I needed to take. However, as I was registering myself I remembered doing this just a few months ago. Then I remembered what it took to get to where I am now. It made me think about how blessed I am to have such a supportive group of people backing me.
Unfortunately, as I started to think back a few months I began to realize all that has happened within the past few years. Graduating, heartbreak, success, friends, family, and various other people, places, and things. It's amazing seeing how far you've walked in such a short time. I think right now is a perfect time to recall one of my all time preferred pieces of poetry.
Today was a productive day. Got registered for the classes I needed to take. However, as I was registering myself I remembered doing this just a few months ago. Then I remembered what it took to get to where I am now. It made me think about how blessed I am to have such a supportive group of people backing me.
Unfortunately, as I started to think back a few months I began to realize all that has happened within the past few years. Graduating, heartbreak, success, friends, family, and various other people, places, and things. It's amazing seeing how far you've walked in such a short time. I think right now is a perfect time to recall one of my all time preferred pieces of poetry.
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
and sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
and looked down one as far as I could
to where it bent in the undergrowth;
and sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveller, long I stood
and looked down one as far as I could
to where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
and having perhaps the better claim
because it was grassy and wanted wear;
though as for that, the passing there
had worn them really about the same,
and having perhaps the better claim
because it was grassy and wanted wear;
though as for that, the passing there
had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
in leaves no feet had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
in leaves no feet had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less travelled by,
and that has made all the difference
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less travelled by,
and that has made all the difference
By Robert Frost.
Every time I read this poem it warns me. It whispers those wise words, "Days will pass quickly and without caution," Sadly, it is too easy to miss some of the best opportunities, or roads, of your life. My message today is short and sweet, don't ever take your life for granted, because before you know it, your time will sadly be up.
This world has a tendency to make us forget about what is truly important. People will try and try again to fill your minds up with what THEY feel is important. Don't ever buy into that lie, you know what 's best for you. You know what you need and what you want, others will offer guidance and that's good, listen to their advice, but make your own choices. It's your life, live and let live, but never forget to laugh and love. The most vital act that any human being can perform is love. Do not ever give up on love, it's one of those natural beauties. Laughter brings joy not only to you but to everyone around you, so never forget to laugh at anything and at every thing.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011
The Bus
Hey everyone!
Public transportation is one way to meet new people. The bus drivers are typically nice and sociable. The passengers are interesting folk too. If you ask them how their day has been you are certainly in for one hell of a story. It's quite fun actually, seeing new places, new people, and new potential destinations. However, there are those certain aspects of public transportation that you can certainly live without.
For instance, those creepy men who believe that it is alright to whistle at a young beautiful woman as if she is some type of an animal. Yes, unfortunately that does happen. In fact, that happened to me countless times. I am sure that has happened to you readers too. It is quite disgusting and perverse.
Ladies, you do not have to live with that type of despicable behavior. Whistling at a women is a form a sexual harassment. No one is obligated to tolerate it. Now, I know some men who will read this, will assume that I am a feminist, I am not. I am simply a young woman who is tired of being whistled at. Does that make sense? Now, not all men are pigs. In contrast, I know very many gentlemen who would never whistle, hoot, or holler at a woman. It is perverse and can make a woman feel victimized. True, whistling at a woman or anyone else is not a crime, but sexual harassment is. I highly doubt any woman would report whistling to the police but if your not careful any form of sexual harassment could become serious.
Moreover, ladies we are obligated to remember that men mature at a much slower rate than women. Also, we all are easily tempted into lustful behavior. It is part of the human character. It is not wrong in any way to be attracted to someone, but it is wrong to victimize that person because of your slight infatuation. And romance is not a bad thing, but we all as people must learn to respect each other. Whistling at a woman is certainly not respectful behavior but bashing men is not respectful either. Please do not read this blog and think that I am bashing all men because I am not. As I stated above, I know many gentlemen who would never act so piggishly.
Also, ladies there are ways to stop this type of brash behavior. Simply tell the man whistling at you that you are not an animal, therefore you do not respond positively to any form of an animal call. Or, dress in a way that shows that you have some feeling of personal respect. Everyone must respect themselves first to gain respect from others. Have dignity and hold your head up high. Know that you are a natural beauty and men will begin to see you as you require them to see you as That Natural Beauty.
Public transportation is one way to meet new people. The bus drivers are typically nice and sociable. The passengers are interesting folk too. If you ask them how their day has been you are certainly in for one hell of a story. It's quite fun actually, seeing new places, new people, and new potential destinations. However, there are those certain aspects of public transportation that you can certainly live without.
For instance, those creepy men who believe that it is alright to whistle at a young beautiful woman as if she is some type of an animal. Yes, unfortunately that does happen. In fact, that happened to me countless times. I am sure that has happened to you readers too. It is quite disgusting and perverse.
Ladies, you do not have to live with that type of despicable behavior. Whistling at a women is a form a sexual harassment. No one is obligated to tolerate it. Now, I know some men who will read this, will assume that I am a feminist, I am not. I am simply a young woman who is tired of being whistled at. Does that make sense? Now, not all men are pigs. In contrast, I know very many gentlemen who would never whistle, hoot, or holler at a woman. It is perverse and can make a woman feel victimized. True, whistling at a woman or anyone else is not a crime, but sexual harassment is. I highly doubt any woman would report whistling to the police but if your not careful any form of sexual harassment could become serious.
Moreover, ladies we are obligated to remember that men mature at a much slower rate than women. Also, we all are easily tempted into lustful behavior. It is part of the human character. It is not wrong in any way to be attracted to someone, but it is wrong to victimize that person because of your slight infatuation. And romance is not a bad thing, but we all as people must learn to respect each other. Whistling at a woman is certainly not respectful behavior but bashing men is not respectful either. Please do not read this blog and think that I am bashing all men because I am not. As I stated above, I know many gentlemen who would never act so piggishly.
Also, ladies there are ways to stop this type of brash behavior. Simply tell the man whistling at you that you are not an animal, therefore you do not respond positively to any form of an animal call. Or, dress in a way that shows that you have some feeling of personal respect. Everyone must respect themselves first to gain respect from others. Have dignity and hold your head up high. Know that you are a natural beauty and men will begin to see you as you require them to see you as That Natural Beauty.
Monday, December 5, 2011
Welcome!
Welcome to That Natural Beauty. While beginning this blog the song, "Ain't No Sunshine" By Bill Withers played in the background. Quite ironic considering what I've been thinking about lately.
Why do we depend so much on other people? Don't get me wrong, depending on other people is a fortunate trait we human beings have seemed to develop over the many centuries past. However, aren't we a self-assertive species? Take a look in any book that holds information, ideas, and theories from and about significant individuals. I.E. Socrates. His methods are taught throughout countless universities and high schools. Socrates' constant pushing of his ideas and new methods brought about significant global change, more pointedly within the instruction and education of up-and-coming generations.
In this world, we need to be self-assertive individuals to make ourselves successful and enthusiastically engaged in life. We can't always rely on others to make our lives successful and happy, that is a lesson I was forced to learn. It was a harsh lesson but a priceless one. For many years, too many really, I've felt that I couldn't stand by myself and not be walked all over. I've proven myself wrong. I stand more independent but I am supported by my friends and family. The difference between me, say three years ago and me now, is simply, I have been forced to become a much more independent individual and therefore I am starting to become a self-assertive person.
It is liberating to know that you can survive without dependence on others all the time. It is liberating to be your own person. Stop allowing people to dictate your life. We are an intelligent species; we read, write, problem-solve, and analyze everything. Our brain registers so much information on a daily basis. Literally, we have about one billion neurons in our brain. Each one of those one billion neurons forms about 1000 connections to other neurons. That is literally, mind blowing. How can any of us sit back on the sidelines of our own lives when we are truly fully capable of achieving anything?
We are a special species, unique and brilliant. The human race is literally that natural beauty. That natural beauty that can send a man to the moon, that can paint a picture that has depth, that can study stars hundreds of billions of miles away, that can discover a new life form miles under the ocean, or that can chop down a tree and plant a new one. How can you believe that you can't be a self-assertive individual? Be self-assertive for the right causes, fight for what you believe in, and stop allowing others to label you. You are That Natural Beauty.
Why do we depend so much on other people? Don't get me wrong, depending on other people is a fortunate trait we human beings have seemed to develop over the many centuries past. However, aren't we a self-assertive species? Take a look in any book that holds information, ideas, and theories from and about significant individuals. I.E. Socrates. His methods are taught throughout countless universities and high schools. Socrates' constant pushing of his ideas and new methods brought about significant global change, more pointedly within the instruction and education of up-and-coming generations.
In this world, we need to be self-assertive individuals to make ourselves successful and enthusiastically engaged in life. We can't always rely on others to make our lives successful and happy, that is a lesson I was forced to learn. It was a harsh lesson but a priceless one. For many years, too many really, I've felt that I couldn't stand by myself and not be walked all over. I've proven myself wrong. I stand more independent but I am supported by my friends and family. The difference between me, say three years ago and me now, is simply, I have been forced to become a much more independent individual and therefore I am starting to become a self-assertive person.
It is liberating to know that you can survive without dependence on others all the time. It is liberating to be your own person. Stop allowing people to dictate your life. We are an intelligent species; we read, write, problem-solve, and analyze everything. Our brain registers so much information on a daily basis. Literally, we have about one billion neurons in our brain. Each one of those one billion neurons forms about 1000 connections to other neurons. That is literally, mind blowing. How can any of us sit back on the sidelines of our own lives when we are truly fully capable of achieving anything?
We are a special species, unique and brilliant. The human race is literally that natural beauty. That natural beauty that can send a man to the moon, that can paint a picture that has depth, that can study stars hundreds of billions of miles away, that can discover a new life form miles under the ocean, or that can chop down a tree and plant a new one. How can you believe that you can't be a self-assertive individual? Be self-assertive for the right causes, fight for what you believe in, and stop allowing others to label you. You are That Natural Beauty.
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